Last week, two interesting statistics on young people and sexual activity using their phones appeared in the media. The Journal of Pediatrics printed a study showing that 10 percent of kids age 10-17 have received or sent a sexually suggestive images, only 1 percent have shared images that display explicit nudity. The study suggests a few things: 1. It’s probably a tiny minority of the kids doing all the sexting, and 2. The hoopla over teens sexting is exactly that, hoopla. Here at Glamour we’re only so interested in what kids are doing (cue Helen Lovejoy’s “Won’t someone please think of the children!"), but this study begs the question: What exactly constitutes a sext?
With my two years as a sex/dating blogger, I feel I'm qualified to take a stab at this: a sext is subjective, and is really anything intended to make him hard or her wet. If you’re dating a guy who is super into feet, and you send him a photo of you trying in shoes, that’s a sext. If you’re dating a girl who has a dedicated spanking fetish, and you send her a picture of a ping pong paddle, that’s a sext. If your dating life lies somewhere in between and, like the rest of us, you like to see the occasional boob, bum, dick or chest pop up on your phone, just ask yourself: Is this meant to turn him/her on? If the answer is “yes” then according to me it’s sexting.
The question of sexting boils down to what Free Sex Moive
someone finds sexy. As a professional appreciator of the written word, I’m often turned on by description more than visuals. You writing me in a text what you’re doing, or will be doing (to me) is probably going to trump a picture of you in your undies. Probably. Who doesn’t like a picture of someone they find sexy in their underwear? We’re all visual creatures. Words in my texts are just easier to shape and digest than imagery (all that graininess, oy).
The key difference is that words are just words and much harder to use than visuals for future embarrassment or legal action. There’s little risk with sending type. But maybe that’s part of the thrill. I can’t say. It’s really up to you.
And that’s just it, it’s really up to you: what constitutes a sext, what constitutes a flirt, and what constitutes a plain old texty text. I’ll say this, and it’s just my little opinion: a huge part of the art of sex is temptation, uncovering the unknown, and suspense. Think about that when you’re sexting. The imagination is a powerful thing; you’ll probably be much more successful with titillation than tits (or toes, if that happens to be his thing).
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texts? Have you sent pictures? Have you received them?
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